Autism has its pros and cons- and boy does it ever have its cons- but SubhanAllah, it really has its pros. Khalid doesn’t just like dinosaurs, he likes reading about them, and he doesn’t just read stories, he reads encyclopedias. And he’s not just reading encyclopedias, he is memorizing them- word for word, page by…
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By the steeds, choo choo!
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Dear Not a Loser…
“Asalaamualaikum please don’t think dat i am belittling your problems but i want to kill myself but i cant as it is prohibited i feel i am accumulating sins day by day isn’t it better for me to die i am not satisfied with my life i don’t want to do engineering but for my…
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Dua or a Dollar for the Philippines
I have a special relationship with the Philippines- even though I doubt the islands know. When my son was diagnosed with autism and my husband and I were struggling to meet his monthly therapy needs and begging Allah for help, He gave us a special needs teacher and ABA therapist from there whose passion, energy,…
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Life after death before death
Darkness lies around him
and watches with dark eyes
whispering suggestions
suggesting lovely lies...
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The only kind of counterstrike I play
One of the ways that Shaitaan tries to bring me down is to get me to use the internet for wandering into distraction versus addressing any cause of my stress, or Shaitaan-Forbid- actually making dua or something. So I use his own trick against him and use the internet to bring me closer to Allah.…
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An Najm
Will ye laugh and yet not weep for the years you've lived asleep?
Asleep to numb your fears,
And numb to soothe your cares?
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JazakAllahuKheiran :)
I invited myself over to a friend’s house yesterday. Normally I invite people over to my house instead, but since we’ve been without a housekeeper for the past three weeks, I don’t think any of my friends would appreciate an afternoon in the sty with tea and- well, that’s it. Tea. Because I don’t have…
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Last Night
It is the way of man that if
Sin should maul his hand
He at once withdraws and cradles it
And marvels at the pain...
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The Economics of Sex
Forget the naked lollipop schtick and the oversimplification of covered = protected and protected = virtuous.
Hijab is about setting the market value for yourself in an economy driven by sex and how much it's currently going for.
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More Sweetness- Tweet Tweet!
I just finished six hours of class- possibly the best class I’ve ever taken- called The Unfolding Dream with Shaykh Sajid Umar. It would not be correct to say it is the Tafseer of Surah Yusuf- because Tafseer only scratches the surface. Six hours… and we’ve covered thirteen ayas. I came to class with five hours […]
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When Nineveh Met Taif: Gems from Ilmfest
It was a sad day in Ninevah. The Prophet Yunus, peace be upon him, was leaving. Angry, frustrated, and unable to continue what felt like a hopeless endeavor, he boarded the first ship out of town, leaving his homeland behind. He had tried and tried and tried– but no matter how hard he argued or […]
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الوالي Al- Wali, The Protecting Friend
Ya Wali, as we move to a new country with new people, where we will find both new friends new enemies, please be the Protecting Friend of my children. If my children face bullies, please protect their little hearts and bodies. If my children face loneliness on the straight path, let them know that the Lord Himself […]
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I Love: False Dilemmas!
If they asked you what you wanted for Christmas and you said “OMG A LOGICAL FALLACY!” then this video is for you! In which I explain why I love the False Dilemma and how people – and shaitaan too- attempt to trick you with it. Allah’s Messenger ﷺ said: … Read more →
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Mister Flamey-Cheeks, Abu Lahab
You might know the *what* of Surah Lahab/Masad, but do you know the *why*? Who was Abu Lahab, and why did he of all people get a Surah? And what’s up with his wife? Learn this in the most non-scholarly of all explanations, the first of what shall henceforth be … Read more →
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Kids Ask: What’s the point of Jummah?
A few minutes before Jummah today, my son came and sat down next to me in a grumpy huff. “Momma, I just don’t understand…” He furrowed his lil brow angrily and said, “What’s the point of Jummah!” I told him I had the answer. But first, we needed candy…
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Haramalaikum: Bacon -vs- Bullying
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Tafseriously? Pharoah was a jerk.
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Emotional Brickmail #seewhatIdidthere
If I threw a brick through your window could I tell you it was an amanah? Could I tape a little note to it that says “This brick is a sacred trust and by accepting this brick into your window you are now accountable, in the sight of Allah, for … Read more →
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Corporate Tips for Spiritual Wellbeing (lol)
So, I can’t remember exactly which colleague at which office recommended this to my husband, but I do remember which husband it was. It was you HF, don’t worry. (lol)
Whether you’re in a meeting, or meeting other Muslims, or debating whether to say salaam to a person of the opposite gender, or struggling with your intention in general, then W.A.I.T. Before you speak, ask yourself the following:
Why
Am
I
Talking?
What this does is allow you a quick audit of your intentions and thoughts, something that every adult knows that someone else in their life desperately needs. 
(It’s me. The person who needs this is me.)
As someone who has been somewhat public in my life for a long ole time (my blog is older than my marriage and I’ve been married for over 17 years), I find that I can overshare as well as overthink, and sometimes, both at the same time. Two for one, BOGO! Whether I’m about to overshare at another person’s speech, or talk about my experiences when coming to learn about someone else’s, WAIT has saved me from making a horse’s hind end out of myself on multiple occasions. Not because I’m a narcissist, but because I suffer from chronic verbal dysentery.
WAIT is a useful supplement to the three gates of speech: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? The gates of speech have been attributed to Rumi, Buddha, and even Socrates, and I’m not paid enough to dig into who actually said it. Regardless of the source, the three gates are a great way to be a better person. I’ve tried teaching them to my kids, and I hope they stick.
For both of us, InshaAllah. Over & out.
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